If you’re a twenty something university graduate you’re most likely to describe your current state of life as a little “lost”. So much so that when you hear someone say the cliche statement you sound a laugh of relation in response. When everyone is telling you you can be anything you want to be, the subject is so disorienting you don’t know where to put a foot down next. So many choices you’re afraid to make one that you don’t make a choice at all.

Welcome to the problems of the Millennial generation: lost and alone. If you relate with what’s being said, you can leave out the alone part as you are in very good company with so many people in their 20’s. You grew up with an electronic pacifier, one called technology. While feeling lost isn’t a new idea it is propelled by something called Social Media, all used by the other lost individuals to create a curated life which makes you feel that much more behind.

In most cases you’re hovering over job sites like a spider on a fly or reading career books like breakup self helps. You cringe every time one of your parents’ friends ask what you’re up to… as if no one’s ever asked you before.

What most people don’t understand is that to twenty somethings, picking who signs your paycheque is like being in what Forbes refers to as the The Cheesecake Factory Analogy. “The twenty-something experience is full of limitless options and choices with no guarantees and constant opportunities for comparison.” No wonder you’re all so hellishly lost. Too many options have you paralyzed.

Because you are so used to having so many options you tend to want to explore all options before making a choice. Although this is an admirable approach it is counterproductive to making a choice. To focus, ask yourself a set of questions that will pinpoint exactly what your standards are before you even start your research.

  • Where do I want to live?
  • Whom do I know whose job sounds appealing?
  • What are my spare time interests?
  • How much control do I need over my time?
  • How much money do I need to be content with my lifestyle?

When you have a good order of how you want things to be, stray far, far away from social media in order to avoid Obsessive Comparison Disorder. Because although it might be nice to own a PR firm like your friend Tiffany or be a Pastry chef like Shannon, remember how much you actually dislike large crowds and how you can’t even bake boxed cookies in the kitchen.

We aren’t all good at the same things, and most importantly we don’t all like the same things. Stick to what you know is you, and be content with your own path. Be content with your own “dish”. And remember, “Comparison is the thief of joy”.

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